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"My Husband Called Me Spoiled"

Talkshow on How to Remake Your Marriage

1 hr 1 min

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Rabbi YY Jacobson was interviewed on "The Ladies Talk Show with Leah". This second of of a two-part series on "Marriage Makeover," took place on Wednesday, 17 Cheshvan, 5781, November 4, 2020

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  • Anonymous -3 years ago

    please if you can put up the the mp3 option. thanks alot.

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    Yoni -3 years ago

    Please can you arrange an mp3 download link.

    Thank you

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    malkah -3 years ago

    First of all thank you for all your amazing speeches they have changed my life. 
     
    I wanted to write to tell you how deeply validated I felt when you established that marriage is both on the man and the woman. This talk of putting everything on the woman has been a tremendous source of confusion and heartache. You’ll be surprised when I say I am in a beautiful and blessed marriage on every level to a most healthy and developed man Bh. We have a beautiful child and live life, with all its ups and downs emotions, challenges, just the way it should be.
     We are both very self aware, have our things to work on and are open about it. When I came across this concept of the wife changing the marriage  etc. it was very interesting and some of it rang true. At first it seemed very reasonable and right. However, the more I internalized it the more guilt built up without me realizing . In short after a few months I realized something wasn’t right I shared it with my husband and he was mortified. I am now a lot further away from it but the guilt is still there every time we work through things or I speak up. The more I think  about it the more I realize how not torahdik this whole concept is. Did Sarah imainu shy away from talking to Avraham  about Hagar? What about Rivkah  with Yitzchak? 
     
    I think its so utterly wrong to teach young people about a utopian life where by bypassing  emotions you achieve intimacy. What kind of intimacy is that anyways? And to pretend that thats the will of Hashem. Isn't the Torah full of tears and deep feelings? 
     
    Thank you for bringing some truth to a conversation that is so confusing. 

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    Sara Metzger -3 years ago

    The key to what you said is ...

    A committment to a loving relationship. Without that it won't work. If the committment is there seems that anything could work out well.

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Rabbi YY Interviewed on The Ladies Talkshow #2

Rabbi YY Jacobson

  • November 4, 2020
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  • 17 Cheshvan 5781
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