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Can I Ever Make Peace with Myself?

Can I Look You in the Eyes? Can I Look Myself in the Eyes? Can I Look G-d in the Eyes?

1 hr 31 min

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This women's class was presented on Tuesday Parshas Vayishlach, 12 Kislev, 5780, December 10, 2019 at the Ohr Chaim Shul, Monsey, NY

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  • Anonymous -6 months ago

    מאיפה אתה לוקח כל זה

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    R -1 year ago

    Powerful! Wow! Such Clarity!

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    Eliezer -2 years ago

    Same question - where is the second part of this class?

    Thank You

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    Yaella -2 years ago

    Follow up to this class?

    Hi,

    is it possible to know if the second part of this class is available in audio or video?

    Thanks a lot!

    Yaella

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    beila -4 years ago

    wow

    Thank you once again for a most unbelievable, magnificent shiur.  What priceless lessons we are learning...what secrets into the human psyche...what treasures in Torah.

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  • Anonymous -4 years ago

    Generally Positive - but One Comment

    It was an extremely interesting class. I found myself laughing out loud in several instances. 

    However, there is one idea, Rabbi Jacobson, which I found in this lecture and in some of your other classes, which I make a point of listening to whenever I can, as follows:

    There is a feeling that the negativity you mention in your classes are in many if not all cases refers to toxicity, malfunction, personal psychological problems and limitations and so on...

    Perhaps I'm from the "previous generation" but the way I see most personal flaws is - a discrepency between how I'd like to (not necessarily how I'd like to be viewed by others, but actually - how I'd like to see myself) as opposed to how I actually am, as simply, temporarily falling into the net of the "yetser horo". 

    I don't know why people prefer to call this psychotic problems and make everything so complicated with all these personality disorders - names as the stem of all the negativity a person experiences. We've had to face these difficulties all along in history. There's nothing actually new (except for real cases of personality disorders that require therapy). But my general feeling is that when lecturers speak so much about these personality defects, they may actually be intensifying this frame of mind that wasn't there to begin with - perhaps I may actually have personality problems and I may actually have to see a therapist....

    Whereas, if you point out to a person that his misgivings are simply a manifest of his evil inclination being expressed in one way or the other, a person can still tell himself - I am perfectly normal. So I "fell though" this time, but I'm basically okay and I'll be better next time. I believe this is a healthier way of considering one's "malfunctions" instead of expressing them as "some deep psychotic disorder".

    Otherwise, your shiurim are  great, they contain important and practical messages that can be applied in daily life.

    Keep up the good work. You've got many listeners out there waiting to hear what you have to say.

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  • Anonymous -4 years ago

    Complex Insight

    Such a fascinating Shiur. By far the most provocative with so many layers. Thank you for the inspiration.

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  • Anonymous -4 years ago

    Wow!
    Incredible message today (and always)!
    I thank you so much for the women’s class . You inspire me and so many
    week after week.
    I loved the “Jacob son” joke!

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    Rachel Hinda -4 years ago

    Here is my take away from your class, one of the best you have ever given.

    If I’m willing to remain with the thickest and most dreaded raw lonely dark moments of night, I have the opportunity to reveal  to myself an Infinite Godly light that is really shining in me at all times that changes the perspective of darkness often into blessing.
    There are 3 steps:
    Facing inner darkness; self unification; and reconnection to the eternal light of Yisroel.

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  • Anonymous -4 years ago

    Sorry, can’t summarize in one line.
    If I’m willing to remain with the thickest and most dreaded raw lonely dark moments of night, I have the opportunity to reveal  to myself an Infinite Godly light that is really shining in me at all times that changes the perspective of darkness often into blessing.

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  • Anonymous -4 years ago

    How do we understand the continuation of the story where it seems that yaakov is still trying to gain favor in the eyes of esav?

    The rest of the story fits very well with the shiur that esav now wants to join yaakov and he refuses and will not accept under any circumstances and then yaakov is able to build his own home. Interstingly, called sukkos, the place that reminds us that we are under the shelter of God and could live with him in total faith without needing others in our lives to fuffill what we need.

    וַיֹּ֕אמֶר מִ֥י לְךָ֛ כָּל־הַמַּחֲנֶ֥ה הַזֶּ֖ה אֲשֶׁ֣ר פָּגָ֑שְׁתִּי וַיֹּ֕אמֶר לִמְצֹא־חֵ֖ן בְּעֵינֵ֥י אֲדֹנִֽי׃

    And he asked, “What do you mean by all this company which I have met?” He answered, “To gain my lord’s favor.”

    וַיֹּ֥אמֶר עֵשָׂ֖ו יֶשׁ־לִ֣י רָ֑ב אָחִ֕י יְהִ֥י לְךָ֖ אֲשֶׁר־לָֽךְ׃

    Esau said, “I have enough, my brother; let what you have remain yours.”

    וַיֹּ֣אמֶר יַעֲקֹ֗ב אַל־נָא֙ אִם־נָ֨א מָצָ֤אתִי חֵן֙ בְּעֵינֶ֔יךָ וְלָקַחְתָּ֥ מִנְחָתִ֖י מִיָּדִ֑י כִּ֣י עַל־כֵּ֞ן רָאִ֣יתִי פָנֶ֗יךָ כִּרְאֹ֛ת פְּנֵ֥י אֱלֹהִ֖ים וַתִּרְצֵֽנִי׃

    But Jacob said, “No, I pray you; if you would do me this favor, accept from me this gift; for to see your face is like seeing the face of God, and you have received me favorably.

    קַח־נָ֤א אֶת־בִּרְכָתִי֙ אֲשֶׁ֣ר הֻבָ֣את לָ֔ךְ כִּֽי־חַנַּ֥נִי אֱלֹהִ֖ים וְכִ֣י יֶשׁ־לִי־כֹ֑ל וַיִּפְצַר־בּ֖וֹ וַיִּקָּֽח׃

    Please accept my present which has been brought to you, for God has favored me and I have plenty.” And when he urged him, he accepted.

    וַיֹּ֖אמֶר נִסְעָ֣ה וְנֵלֵ֑כָה וְאֵלְכָ֖ה לְנֶגְדֶּֽךָ׃

    And [Esau] said, “Let us start on our journey, and I will proceed at your pace.”

    וַיֹּ֣אמֶר אֵלָ֗יו אֲדֹנִ֤י יֹדֵ֙עַ֙ כִּֽי־הַיְלָדִ֣ים רַכִּ֔ים וְהַצֹּ֥אן וְהַבָּקָ֖ר עָל֣וֹת עָלָ֑י וּדְפָקוּם֙ י֣וֹם אֶחָ֔ד וָמֵ֖תוּ כָּל־הַצֹּֽאן׃

    But he said to him, “My lord knows that the children are frail and that the flocks and herds, which are nursing, are a care to me; if they are driven hard a single day, all the flocks will die.

    יַעֲבָר־נָ֥א אֲדֹנִ֖י לִפְנֵ֣י עַבְדּ֑וֹ וַאֲנִ֞י אֶֽתְנָהֲלָ֣ה לְאִטִּ֗י לְרֶ֨גֶל הַמְּלָאכָ֤ה אֲשֶׁר־לְפָנַי֙ וּלְרֶ֣גֶל הַיְלָדִ֔ים עַ֛ד אֲשֶׁר־אָבֹ֥א אֶל־אֲדֹנִ֖י שֵׂעִֽירָה׃

    Let my lord go on ahead of his servant, while I travel slowly, at the pace of the cattle before me and at the pace of the children, until I come to my lord in Seir.”

    וַיֹּ֣אמֶר עֵשָׂ֔ו אַצִּֽיגָה־נָּ֣א עִמְּךָ֔ מִן־הָעָ֖ם אֲשֶׁ֣ר אִתִּ֑י וַיֹּ֙אמֶר֙ לָ֣מָּה זֶּ֔ה אֶמְצָא־חֵ֖ן בְּעֵינֵ֥י אֲדֹנִֽי׃

    Then Esau said, “Let me assign to you some of the men who are with me.” But he said, “Oh no, my lord is too kind to me!”

    וַיָּשָׁב֩ בַּיּ֨וֹם הַה֥וּא עֵשָׂ֛ו לְדַרְכּ֖וֹ שֵׂעִֽירָה׃

    So Esau started back that day on his way to Seir.

    וְיַעֲקֹב֙ נָסַ֣ע סֻכֹּ֔תָה וַיִּ֥בֶן ל֖וֹ בָּ֑יִת וּלְמִקְנֵ֙הוּ֙ עָשָׂ֣ה סֻכֹּ֔ת עַל־כֵּ֛ן קָרָ֥א שֵׁם־הַמָּק֖וֹם סֻכּֽוֹת׃ (ס)

    But Jacob journeyed on to Succoth, and built a house for himself and made stalls for his cattle; that is why the place was called Succoth.

    וַיָּבֹא֩ יַעֲקֹ֨ב שָׁלֵ֜ם עִ֣יר שְׁכֶ֗ם אֲשֶׁר֙ בְּאֶ֣רֶץ כְּנַ֔עַן בְּבֹא֖וֹ מִפַּדַּ֣ן אֲרָ֑ם וַיִּ֖חַן אֶת־פְּנֵ֥י הָעִֽיר׃

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    tzveeble -4 years ago

    Mind boggling

    Taking the step from who you want to be to who you can be.  What a powerful lecture in dismantling one's facade and attaining truth and self-actualisation instead.

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Women's Vayishlach Class

Rabbi YY Jacobson

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Dedicated by Helen Ross, in loving memory of her father Chanoch ben Chaim Simcha, for his 20th yahrtzeit on the 3rd of Cheshvan

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