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Can We Really Control Our Emotions?

You Can Forgive Yourself for Being Triggered

1 hr 10 min

Class Summary:

This is a text-based class on the Maamar, Chassidic discourse, by the Lubavitcher Rebbe, U'sfartem Lachem, presented by the Rebbe on Lag Ba'omer, 18 Iyar, 5711, May 24, 1951.

This class was presented by Rabbi YY Jacobson on Thursday Parshas Acharei Mos/Kedoshim, 10 Iyar, 5781, April 22, 2021, live from his home in Monsey, NY.

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    Sarah Goldberg -3 years ago

    "Perfection is the enemy of the good"

    Getting depressed because the whole entity or project isn't perfect can result in giving up on working on  the  parts or less than perfect success. 

    "I can't do it perfectly so I won't even try!"

    The fallacy is  that perfection of the whole only consists of eventual perfection of each part, or only partial success can eventually lead to complete total perfection.  

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    Sarah Goldberg -3 years ago

    The whole comprises the sum of its parts AND MORE

    Everybody knows about the synergistic effect of combining components to form a united entity that is synergistic, i.e. greater than the sum of its parts. 

    Take each part of a car, a computer, anything complex. Even the Mishkan.  The perfect combination results in an entity that is far greater than any of  its parts. It will only function if all the parts are there and united properly.  

    Conversely if one part is  missing, the complex unified whole entity cannot function. 

    Counting days are the various parts, the components.  But a week with all its days results in a complex entity that is far greater than any or even all of its individual days.

    Therefore counting days is one thing, a particular part, but counting each weeks consists of counting complex entities that are synergistic result of 7 of those parts. 

    One can count days but not have weeks. But one cannot count a week unless all of its days are there and united properly. 

    "Avraham came with his DAYS.....". Our primordial father perfected each day, each week, each month and each year. His life, the sum total of his days, weeks, months and years, was perfect precisely because each component day was perfect.  

    Make each day perfect and the rest will follow automatically.  One can't have a perfect week, a perfect month or year without each day being perfect. .  

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    Sara Metzger -3 years ago

    Someone asked...

    Rabbeinu Yerucham position seems strange, as if weeks are on derababn. We are saying that one week represents one middah eg chesed in an all encompassing manner so how can refining days be biblical when this is the detailed refinement yet the overall week is not biblical?

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    Motti Cohen -3 years ago

    It seems that you need to tackle the days before you can tackle the weeks?

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    Sara Metzger -3 years ago

    As you know,

    Your brother Rabbi Simon Jacobson breaks down the days very specifically. Eadh day, he breaks it down into the specifics of the weekly (emotions) and daily focuses. Helps me a lot to understand the differences between and nuances of the week and then the days.

    Example for   DAY 25   NETZACH OF NETZACH: Endurance in EnduranceWednesday evening, April 21, we count twenty five days of the Omer.

    Everyone has willpower and determination. We have the capacity to endure much more than we can imagine, and to prevail under the most trying of circumstances. Ask yourself: Is my behavior erratic? Am I inconsistent and unreliable? Since I have will and determination, why am I so mercurial? Am I afraid of accessing my endurance and committing? Do I fear being trapped by my commitment? If yes, why? Is it a reaction to some past trauma? Instead of cultivating endurance in healthy areas, have I developed a capacity for endurance of unhealthy experiences? Do I endure more pain than pleasure? Do I underestimate my capacity to endure? Exercise for the day:  Commit yourself to developing a new good habit.

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Chassidus: Maamer Usfartem 5711 #3

Rabbi YY Jacobson

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