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The Dance Between Attachment and Authenticity In Relationships, Psychology & Spirituality

Why Do Victims of Abuse Blame Themselves, Not the Perpetrator?

1 hr 30 min

Class Summary:

This class was presented on Tuesday, Parshas Behaloscha, 17 Sivan, 5783, June 6, 2023, at Bais Medrash Ohr Chaim in Monsey, NY.

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    RIKI -1 month ago

    This class does not play. I couldnt find it on you tube either. Please advise?

    Thank you

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  • Anonymous -1 month ago


    Thank you for that. A few questions...

    The 'authenticity' of individuals is defined by each unique combination of the sheva middos. Each person also contains to a degree each mida because each mida is actually 'sub-units' of oneness and are thus interconnected with one another.

    1) According to that, any two individuals should be able to deeply connect and understand one another? (after all, we all come from the same source and all contain similar fragments of that source, just in varying proportions).

    2) Further, you've previously taught that certain relationships that aren't healthy cannot always be resolved. But, unity means a connection to an original source. How then, can this be true?

    3) A person should also be able to change their nature by tapping into the various aspects of these sheva middos?? Because we are part of "oneness"!

    Thank you so much.

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  • Anonymous -1 year ago

    Thank you for making your lectures available. I always learn from them. I have a question, In regard to your discussion on the menorah, in the women's class of Behaaloscha, how did they make the flame point anywhere but up. Flames always point up due to gravity. Was it a miracle?

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      Rabbi YY -1 year ago

      Great question. The flame pointed up, but it was in the direction of the center of the menorah. Meaning the wick was pointing in that direction.  

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    Elisheva Cohen -1 year ago

    Shalom rebbe 

    Well I think a leader like you who are a mentor to Am Israel 

    Should have know better when we ask questions it cannot be replied 

    I am sorry don't know 

    As Rebbe you got to research and find the answers no matter what and do whatever best your ability 

    Thank you best regards 

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    • Anonymous -1 year ago

      Hi elishava,

      im not sure what you mean by saying "as a rebbe you got to research and find the answers no matter what"

      does rabbi Jacobson owe us anything ?

      the way I see it is that "we" the students got to have tremendous hakoras hatov to rabbi yy for all he does and enlighten us rather than complain and demand.

      if you can explain more what you meant I would appreciate it.

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Women's Class Parshas Behaaloscha

Rabbi YY Jacobson

  • June 6, 2023
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  • 17 Sivan 5783
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Dedicated by Dr. Herman Weiss in honor of the birthday of my wife Mia, Miriam Freidle bas Ita Basha. May you continue to be our family's rock and guiding star, spreading Torah.

In loving memory of Reb Meir Yitzchak ben Reb Moshe and Arielah Tamari. He was murdered on 10 Sivan 5783, on his 32nd birthday, in Shomron. And in merit of Tal, Alma and Yahav.

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