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  david k -10 years ago

  tzaddik
  Thank you for your true words of wisdom , first time listener , ( side note commentor isaac brings up point abt calling your son tzaddik  if we look in hagaddah the term used is chacham tzadik is something that happens with time and self sacrifice time after time a child should never be called a tzadik will give him wrong idea of what perfection means but wise smart promotes his learning understdanding by calling him chacham )

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  Chosid -13 years ago

  The "Rebbe's view"
  The Rebbe made it clear in a sicha on Parshas
  
  Emor, the great importance of stressing the maalos of a fellow yid bi deboor.
  
  
  
  Complimenting actually elevates their potential, according to the Rebbe. If the compliments are shallow, or have a hidden agenda, that is another story. A child's self-esteem comes from a parent continually seeing a child's potential, and stressing it at the appropriate times.

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  Isaac -13 years ago

  Calling your child a "tzaddik"
  Rabbi Drizinm, how about calling a child generally, not at any specific time or because of a specific action, "a tzaddik," a "malach," a "sweety," is that also not effective? is it not good? please give me your input.
  
  Thanks so much for these teachings. They are making a difference in my life.

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  Nechama -13 years ago

  Howard Glasser in NY this week
  Yes, this Approach which is truly "chassidish" in its essence is well developed by Howard Glasser, who will be giving a 1 day seminar in NYC on Wed, April 6 ( and Monday in Princeton, NJ.) Check it out at www.difficultchild.com(workshops and dates)

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  Chaim Itche -13 years ago

  Story
  The Rusty Penny
  
  By Tuvia Bolton
  
  Rabbi Schneur Zalman of Liadi
  
  (This is as it appears on Chabad.org)
  
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  I heard the story from my father, Rabbi Avrohom Mayorer, a long time ago, and he told it about two orphans who were about to marry and the local Poretz, Landowner, needed money to pay his taxes to the Czar so he held up the local Jewish community by demanding ten thousand ruble from the community or the Choson would
  
  be given as a soldier to the Czarist army for the quota of soldiers.
  
  
  
  The money was collected to save the unfortunate choson.
  
  that the Poretz needed to fill. If someone can help us with a source for this story we would appreciate it.

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Chaim Drizin

• March 18, 2011
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• 12 Adar II 5771
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Classes in this Series

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  22 min

  How To Talk To Your Children

  How Words You Use Impact Your Children. Class 1 of 4

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  27 min

  Rewriting the Script of Your Life

  Labels Make Us Feel that We Are All of Whatever the Label Says We Are. But We Are Not All of Anything. Class 3 of 4

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  29 min

  Is There Only One Right Way to Raise Your Child?

  The Conclusion of the Series on Narrative Therapy. Class 4 of 4