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Life Is Difficult. Once You Accept This, Life Can Be Fun

Moshe, Churchill and Begin: How to Prepare Your People for War

1 hr 24 min

Class Summary:

This women's class was presented on Tuesday Parshas Eikev, 19 Av, 5779, August 20, 2019 at the Ohr Chaim Shul, Monsey, NY.

The Jewish people are standing at the Eastern side of the Jordan river. They are poised to enter the Promised Land. Their faithful leader, Moshe, speaks to them. These are his words: "Hear, O Israel! Today, you are crossing the Jordan to come in to possess nations greater and stronger than you, great cities, fortified up to the heavens. A colossal and towering nation, the children of the giants, whom you know and of whom you have heard said, "Who can stand against the children of the giants?!"

This is mind-staggering. Moshe is repeating, almost verbatim, the words the Ten Spies uttered 39 years earlier which caused an unparalleled catastrophe, and derailed Jewish history from its course.

Is this for real? After everything they have been through, Moses repeats—as we said, almost verbatim—the terrifying and destructively-impactful words of the spies which sowed terror and dread in all of their brethren hearts! 

It is here that we discover the truth of Torah. Judaism does not deny reality; it does not sell us the Brooklyn Bridge. It acknowledged the real fears internal and external hardships, but it also says: Hashem is with you; you can confront every fear. Life is difficult, but if you can accept that, then life can be a lot of fun! 

CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) is a powerful tool, but sometimes it can fail you. It is then that you need another, very different tool -- articulated in this story of Eikev.

The lecture is based on an address by the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Shabbos Parshas Eikev, 23 Av, 5731, August 14, 1971.

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    Rivka -10 months ago

    Thank you for this wonderful shiur

    hrarrd at the right moment. Very empowering 

    Brought me to tears. Have forgotten the teachings of my father z"l

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    Miriam -4 years ago

    Such a chessed for this as well as all shiurim.

    Bh, Hashem sent me to this shiur today. 

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    Esther -4 years ago

    Life is Difficult once u accept it it can be FUN!!!
    Wow wow wow !!!!!! The HIKE !!! 
    Finally Somone validates Life is not a walk in the park!!!! But we can do it ur words r soooo powerful we have the tools we can do it wow the story w Rav Segal and the Lubavitcher Rebbee was a messs to cherish 
    Btw just sharing I couldn’t get out of bed I knew I had a lot to do I neede st to keep me going I found this Speech your speeches r more interesting and soothing than music.
    Ty ty ty 

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    Beila -4 years ago

    Rabbi Jacobson,

    This weeks shiur was so so special! The message of empowering those around us by being honest about a challenge but encouraging them that they CAN do it, was most useful and true! I’ve used it so many times in these few days...

    There is really no way for me to describe what I gain each week...priceless lessons for life.

    Have a safe and meaningful trip.

    Gut Shabbos,

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    יוסי -4 years ago

    לכבוד הרב הגאון החסיד מאיר ומקרב לבבות ישראל לאביהם שבשמים מוהרי"י יעקבסאהן שליט"א

    מאוד מאוד אנכי נהנה משיעוריו הנפלאים בכלל, ובפרט משיעור של השבוע שסיבבה נקודה כה חשובה וכה יקרה, המחזק ומוסיף אומץ לאדם איך להתמודד עם הקשיים התוקפים אותו, ואיך לעמוד פנים בפנים מול בעיות החיים ורק באופן כזה נוכל לנטרל אותם.

    אך רציתי להעיר על שלדבר שלמד מדברי אלוקים חיים שיצאו בקדושה וטהרה מפי משה רעיא מהימנא קדישא ע"ה, הוצרך להביא ממרחק לחמו להעמיד "סעד לתומכו", מלהבדיל אלף אלפי הבדלות דברי גוי משוקץ ראש ממשלת בריטניה, ומדברי ראש הציונים מנחם בגין. לענ"ד דברי תורתנו תורת אמת אין צריכים חיזוק ממקורות כה שפלים, וכה רחוקים כממזרח ומערב, וכמשמי השמים עד מתחת לארץ, לדברי משה רבינו העומד בין הוי' ובינינו, ושכינה מדברת מתוך גרונו עד היום הזה בבחי' "קול גדול ולא יסף".

    ואחשבנו כשגגה שיצא מלפני השליט, וה' הטוב יכפר.

    בתקוה והבנה ובברכת כתיבה וחתימה טובה

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  • Anonymous -4 years ago

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  • Anonymous -4 years ago

    Quote

    "It only hurts when you start pretending it doesn't" 

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  • Anonymous -4 years ago

    addiction

    Same with addiction. Do not say it is nothing. No, it is terrifying, but I can do it.

    Chazal say, “al tomar ei afshi, ela afshi umah eeseh.” אל תאמר אי אפשי, אלא אפשי ומה אעשה ואבי שבשמים גזר עלי.

    I think it may be giving the same message. I really would love to "eat the cake," and I can accept that, and stil abstain, because G-d is with me, and He does not want me to do this. It is a powerful solace. You need not deny the face that you really want to sin, and you can make space for it, and then do the right thing!

    (The Maggid does says this is not true with a Baal Teshuvah, because "suro ra," he is someone who has fallen prey in the past.)

    The idea is also true with children. When you hide real news, it often comes back to haunt. Tell them the truth and show the that they can handle it.

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      Eliyau -4 years ago

      במחכ"ת המגיד אומר בדיוק להיפוך

      שדוקא צדיק יכולים לומר אפשי

      משא"כ בעל תשובה, שאסור לו לומר אפשי, כי היות שיש לו משיכה לרע, עליו להתרחק ממנו בתכלית

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      • Anonymous -4 years ago

        נכון. טעיתי. אני אתקן בלי נדר. כתבתי ע"פ הזכרון, ות"ח על התיקון טעות.

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    Jamel -4 years ago

    I again want to thank you for the lessons. I had been asked to bring the lesson Tuesday night to the group, and the lesson was "Battle Field of the Mind' so it was additionally exciting for me to hear your lesson, and of course, I incorporated some of the statements, e.g. the struggle, is real, life is difficult... but our G-d is a consuming fire, He goes before us, He fights the battles and we have the victory, so we need not fear, as He told commanded Joshua, not to fear...

    So we can recognize and accept that life is difficult, but we don't have to 'own' it, or pretend otherwise. I saw the nods of agreement over the group of over 40, last night. So again, thank you.

    Another situation that occurred was we had 'testimony' night last week Tuesday... One woman stood up and said, what helped her with the death of her son (from overdose), was when I mentioned the 'sensitivity of many of the addicts', the worlds 'cues' can be overwhelming for them, and their pain is intense because of the sensitivity...

    This resounded with her because he was the most sensitive of her children, it helped her to get a glimpse into his world, and inturn helped her in the grieving process. This she was sayin to over to people. Many people were again nodding in agreement, as they were going through similar situations with their children. Just to show you how you are helping others, outside of your 'sphere of influence'.

    I thought of walking up to Masada, with the sun beating down on your head, when you spoke about your arduous hike. It was a pleasure on arrival, but the walk was 'no joke'. Thanks for being a messenger.

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    Jamel -4 years ago

    I again want to thank you for the lessons. I had been asked to bring the lesson Tuesday night to the group, and the lesson was "Battle Field of the Mind' so it was additionally exciting for me to hear your lesson, and of course, I incorporated some of the statements, e.g. the struggle, is real, life is difficult... but our G-d is a consuming fire, He goes before us, He fights the battles and we have the victory, so we need not fear, as He told commanded Joshua, not to fear...

    So we can recognize and accept that life is difficult, but we don't have to 'own' it, or pretend otherwise. I saw the nods of agreement over the group of over 40, last night. So again, thank you.

    Another situation that occurred was we had 'testimony' night last week Tuesday... One woman stood up and said, what helped her with the death of her son (from overdose), was when I mentioned the 'sensitivity of many of the addicts', the worlds 'cues' can be overwhelming for them, and their pain is intense because of the sensitivity...

    This resounded with her because he was the most sensitive of her children, it helped her to get a glimpse into his world, and inturn helped her in the grieving process. This she was sayin to over to people. Many people were again nodding in agreement, as they were going through similar situations with their children. Just to show you how you are helping others, outside of your 'sphere of influence'.

    I thought of walking up to Masada, with the sun beating down on your head, when you spoke about your arduous hike. It was a pleasure on arrival, but the walk was 'no joke'. Thanks for being a messenger.

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    Jamel -4 years ago

    I again want to thank you for the lessons. I had been asked to bring the lesson Tuesday night to the group, and the lesson was "Battle Field of the Mind' so it was additionally exciting for me to hear your lesson, and of course, I incorporated some of the statements, e.g. the struggle, is real, life is difficult... but our G-d is a consuming fire, He goes before us, He fights the battles and we have the victory, so we need not fear, as He told commanded Joshua, not to fear...

    So we can recognize and accept that life is difficult, but we don't have to 'own' it, or pretend otherwise. I saw the nods of agreement over the group of over 40, last night. So again, thank you.

    Another situation that occurred was we had 'testimony' night last week Tuesday... One woman stood up and said, what helped her with the death of her son (from overdose), was when I mentioned the 'sensitivity of many of the addicts', the worlds 'cues' can be overwhelming for them, and their pain is intense because of the sensitivity...

    This resounded with her because he was the most sensitive of her children, it helped her to get a glimpse into his world, and inturn helped her in the grieving process. This she was sayin to over to people. Many people were again nodding in agreement, as they were going through similar situations with their children. Just to show you how you are helping others, outside of your 'sphere of influence'.

    I thought of walking up to Masada, with the sun beating down on your head, when you spoke about your arduous hike. It was a pleasure on arrival, but the walk was 'no joke'. Thanks for being a messenger.

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    Jamel -4 years ago

    I again want to thank you for the lessons. I had been asked to bring the lesson Tuesday night to the group, and the lesson was "Battle Field of the Mind' so it was additionally exciting for me to hear your lesson, and of course, I incorporated some of the statements, e.g. the struggle, is real, life is difficult... but our G-d is a consuming fire, He goes before us, He fights the battles and we have the victory, so we need not fear, as He told commanded Joshua, not to fear...

    So we can recognize and accept that life is difficult, but we don't have to 'own' it, or pretend otherwise. I saw the nods of agreement over the group of over 40, last night. So again, thank you.

    Another situation that occurred was we had 'testimony' night last week Tuesday... One woman stood up and said, what helped her with the death of her son (from overdose), was when I mentioned the 'sensitivity of many of the addicts', the worlds 'cues' can be overwhelming for them, and their pain is intense because of the sensitivity...

    This resounded with her because he was the most sensitive of her children, it helped her to get a glimpse into his world, and inturn helped her in the grieving process. This she was sayin to over to people. Many people were again nodding in agreement, as they were going through similar situations with their children. Just to show you how you are helping others, outside of your 'sphere of influence'.

    I thought of walking up to Masada, with the sun beating down on your head, when you spoke about your arduous hike. It was a pleasure on arrival, but the walk was 'no joke'. Thanks for being a messenger.

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    Shmuel -4 years ago

    Thank You!!!

    Dearest Rabbi Jacobson,

    I cannot thank you enough for this lecture!!!

    It is axactly what I need now in my life!!!

    You should be blessed with everything!!!

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    Moshe -4 years ago

    Zev Segal said that response from the Rebbe which he says carried him all his life

    At the nj shloshim in 1994.
    Nachum plays the 20 minute hespid every gimmel tammuz

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    Moshe Isenberg -4 years ago

    correction

    "Mind BOGGLING" 

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    חיים שלמה -4 years ago

    Per חובת הלבבות the primary fear a person has is the fear if the unknown

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      Judith Friedmann -4 years ago

      Rabbi Jacobson this message is so powerful I had to share it in your name all over the globe with my grandchildren one is in Hungary right now!!Thanks a million.  Judith from Lugano 

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Women's Eikev Class

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Dedicated by Sammy and Laurie Friedland, in loving memory of their parents, Chaim Meir ben Shlomo Zalman Friedland, and Shayna Rachel bas Dovid Eliezer Simon, in honor of their yartzeit, 19 Av.

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